How to love yourself

You know, I think this question is quite normal in adolescence. We grow, we grow and it is normal that the question arises as to his concerns? What is the normal self-esteem, which is low, and can be called high kukuyu?
But, sadly, that many girls and women-still ask this question.
And so, how to love yourself?

Imagine that you have a love affair with itself.

You - are you and your inner I- here that pesky voice who call you a fat that you're all such a curve, slash neudachnitsa- this is your choice. Good girls often fall for bad boys. Here you are - fell in love with a complete asshole, he always dissatisfied with everything, always whining that all you have is wrong and makes you feel worse than others.
But what to do ?! You have a lifelong relationship and the need to develop them.
Wake up in the morning, first smile!
Our body is designed in a wonderful way when we feel some emotion, our body begins to support  and if we smile, even if we are bad, begins to produce certain hormones that are responsible for the currents to our mood and Actually it was good.

And when you sit in front of a mirror to habitually smeared kremom- look at yourself in the mirror. Relax your face, every muscle, slightly lift the corners of her mouth into a smile, open your eyes wider and tell sebe- God, what are you beautiful! I love you so much! You're my best!
These thank every woman should be happy to hear that! And if in your life, there is not a man who will tell them to you, or your man is too stingy to manifest chuvstv- You have to tell them to herself out loud! You should hear them.
Words, that if you yourself do not you lyubite- nobody polyubit- not an empty phrase. If a product does not evaluate for the 2000P, it no one will buy it for the money, everyone will give as much as they now have- 10p, 40p, 150r? Well, who do not mind that and not get lazy.

In one of the books I somehow prochitala- love just can parents, their children. But to love someone simply for well impossible. It is necessary that the person deserved it.
And surprisingly, but to love sebya- sometimes need to earn it too.
And we love to other people? Than they can earn our love? Here you have ever loved one sprashival- and what do you love me?
And then we started to list all the advantages: you are safe, you set goals and achieve them, you have a great sense of humor, you're an excellent cook, not that I'm with you because seksa- but you're just a god (yin) in bed, you're very graceful, gentle you, you are sweet, I just have a good with you, etc
If you do not know what myself polyubit- develop the qualities that you value in others.
I admire people who have a hobby. It really is for me a very big plus as a human being. Some just come home from work. eat, watch telly, can another hour or so to sit in social networks and so every day. They do not even know what a birthday podarit- they are no addicted. Than not burn them nothing gets. With such people even boring. We are looking for paru- interest. And if a person has no interests include something we do not understand how to define what we are somewhat similar?

Find a hobby.

There must be something in your life, surrendering what you'll really interested, even if awake all alone. This is a very vazhno- feel comfortable in solitude, not weary them.
And your hobby will become your one piece for which you will be able to experience the sympathy because learn to do something well, beautiful, exciting. This is one of those occasions, about which you say sebe- I love you because you're ...
What would his find- try many things and then you realize that you're interested. Read, learn to cook new dishes, paint, dance, learn languages, embroider, sew, grow, collect. What ugodno- but try and look.

But back to the weekdays. Buy a set of dishes for one personu- very nice to have you looked at him and soul rejoiced. They are called the set of "selfish." It is well established name because such sets ordered for myself even in the age of 18 and 19 and 20. And it has always been.
Just as favorite presents breakfast in bed - and treats themselves. Some do not eat breakfast. This is bad for zdorovya- beauty and self-love) Breakfast- the mood for the whole day. And if you do not have any lezit morning omelet or buterbrot nor kasha- Treat yourself to a glass of juice (diluted with water, because if you're not going to eat right then, the acid will corrode soke- stomach) and banana. Or yogurt. But to make it beautiful.
Buy a beautiful, lacy lingerie. You'll go and whatever you did not have suited the top, you'll know that you are very beautiful lingerie. 3 uplifting things: clothes, shoes, bag. But with them and begin to update the wardrobe.
Begin to play sports. Classes Active- alter hormone production, and it is quite chemically obosnovano- if you qualitative pozanimaetes- the mood miraculously podskochet up. Secondly it is useful for the figure. And thirdly - you start to respect yourself, for what you are lying on the couch.
Respect and love are very closely related and love built on uvazhenie- very strong feeling. Never will make a person sick if you respect him very much. If you just love it lyubish- pass and one becomes a stranger, and to hurt someone who has become a stranger to you easily.
You are very many things will not be able to make yourself a minus if you'll respect yourself.

Another step would be to pardon those whom you are offended. First of all, I'm talking, of course, friends and relatives. If, say, you do not think you love yourself because your mother always kept telling you that something you do not smozhete- it's time to forgive my mother.
It is man-and it also makes mistakes. And if she did these mistakes with you, you probably imagine them to be allowed. If she did not know that one can not always tell the child that he will not be able to, but probably in her life and none of the parents do not support it. And so she does not know how it is and what it is. And now, when both of you can already see the fruits of their oshibok- it's time to draw conclusions and build zanovo- good and strong relationship.
How would you feel good was not alone (if you learn to feel it) is always necessary to have a strong rear) And this is our family and our closest friends. And we must try to maintain this relationship and make steps towards the people.
Chasing someone can not and do not. But some certain circle of people with whom you were once very blizki- with them you should try to build relationships all the time - do not let them.
Very often in conversations "have girlfriends now own family," I think it's really sad bolshinstva- problem with growing up - with the acquisition of the family and children - people turn to their family, losing friends and girlfriends. But, because this is mutual. Someone's family, and someone calls for a visit only no children and her husband, in principle. Ie, of course, of course, have fun better without children. But if you are a part of life Others- deny their friends and tell them to come on as ranshe- no children and her husband come? - That you, over time, lose that person.
And to your "nasty" inner voice told you that you are lonely - learn to appreciate, cherish, love their friends. Sometimes we are so busy that we forget to call, write. run into the Gostiny lost obschenie- lost General- and no general - there is no friendship.
Returns the old, but very close, that you had. Kindle fire again. Error that already as early druzhit- hang out somewhere not work. Now we have to build friendships on new terms. Under the conditions when all have their own families and their children. But this friendship. And she was gone, not because you have fallen out of love, but because it's not you, not a girlfriend (boyfriend) did not know how to keep it at a time when life changed.



I wish you this spring to fall in love and be happy!)